Q: Maybe a heavy question, and i don’t expect you to respond, but how do you navigate the downs in your own personal life? I’d be lying if i didn’t say that a big part of what drew me to wednesday was the comfort and catharsis of hearing someone approach the harder, sadder parts of life through the authentic but somehow often optimistic lens you seem to comport yourself with. I’d also be lying if i didn’t say that the last year and some change of my life kind of broke me, and left most days to feel pretty grim, even with a therapist and a good support system. What’s your go-to cheer up method when nothing else is working?
A: This is funny to answer because I don’t have a way to deal with shit that is the healthiest… but it works for me. Especially within the limitations of the touring life style that doesn’t offer much room for extreme emotion.
I just kind of get into a very meditative state and let life just kind of wash over me. When I feel happy, comfortable, and fulfilled I’m a much more active participant in my life, and engage more intentionally. Those moments come at random on tour, and I lean into them when they’re around.
When I get down I just kind of let my life carry me through in the direction it’s already going in, because resisting or having an extreme reactionary moment is just often going to make things worse. The by product of this however is that on tour i’m in a pretty dissociative state, operating at a very low frequency.
I can sometimes write and do creative work in this place, but often I’m just floating from one thing to another, trying my best to take things as positively as I can.
At home, when I’m fully capable of having space and time to take care of myself, the very basic things (exercise, seeing friends, creative outlets) are definitely what keep me sane.
Doing things that remind me of the best parts of my life: art and creating of art is always a reliable source of happiness for me. Smoking weed and listening to music, watching a movie with a friend, watching a shitty TV show, Youtube videos (ideally made with heart and effort), sewing, recording music or writing songs, any kind of creative writing: all of these things contribute to the vibrancy of life.
Long winded and kinda confusing answer but!!! short answer is music is awesome and saves my life over and over everyday