Memoriez

Q:

as a fellow memory having gurl who draws back into the past via mental/physical experiences and/or nostalgia (do you find yourself to be more nostalgic than the usual guy?), do you ever find that a large portion of your brain is being used to store these memories and your short term memory and processing of new experiences is just not firing on all cylinders?

Or maybe... do you struggle living in the present when the past in so in reach and comforting to crawl into?

I ask because... you resonate, your drawing in on memories resonates, and I find myself doin it a lot - and I wonder if it impedes my currently abilities to make new memories. Maybe my brain is just rotting. Or maybe this just happens as we age.

A: I try to only really think deeply/nostalgically about my past when I’m writing cause it is so wrought with extreme emotions and I can think more critically about stuff I’m further away from…

I think I would get a lil overwhelmed confronting past versions of myself if I thought about my past outside of my creative work. I look back fondly on moments from my past but I would neeeevvvvvverr wanna go back in time to experience most stuff from that time.

I don’t it impacts you negatively like ur saying to be nostalgic about the past. I think other things are much more likely to impede our ability to make new memories…? Mostly like, getting older and having less energy (or more critical thinking) to go out and do crazy shit.

I feel like (I think most people can relate to this also) the memories that come up for me against my will are always the most embarrassing and painful ones, and having that shit come up makes me physically wince its so uncomfortable.

I think something I’m more prone to do nowadawys is fantasize about the future. Sometimes I’ll meet someone and immediately start imagining our life together as a married couple growing old together??? Honestly I’m trying to get out of that habit though, I don’t think it’s the healthiest expectation to put on someone.

Bevvies

what is your beverage of choice for these situations:
- before a show
- after a show
- first thing in the morning
- out w/ friends

A:

Before a show: probably like a ginger shot or coconut water cause I feel like shit on tour from eating like shit/being tired and it revitalizes me a lil

After a show: I don’t really drink anything other than water after I get off stage, but on stage i drink Casa Migos tequila (stole this from the Truckers) or Fernet

First thing in the morning: I drink a mug of microwaved water lol…. supposed to be good for you. Then I drink mushroom coffee cause I’m mostly weened off caffeine.

Out with friends: When I’m out i’ll usually drink fernet if they got it or just like a tequila or vodka soda. I wish I could drink beer cause I like the taste but it hurts my stomach for some reason.

Where to procure Elderberry Wine / Greensboro shiyt

Q: i have been to total wine, bestway, and even called local wineries in the area but to no avail. please please where do i purchase some of that elderberry wine?! my girlfriend and i want to listen to elderberry wine while drinking elderberry wine!!! also i was wondering if you had any tips and tricks for getting yourself into the greensboro music scene specifically, im in a band and we want to play shows! (also i should mention that we did a show at app and did all wednesday covers bc we are your biggest fans ;) anyways, thank you for being epic or whatever :p

A:

This is blasphemy but….. I’ve never had Elderberry Wine………………………….

Xandy’s dad got some somewhere recently but I have no idea where. Maybe Dm him and ask. Xandy, not Xandy’s dad.

For Greensboro music scene I’d send your recordings to Etc, and Flat Iron and be like “hey if you ever need openers were locals”. Also I just met the person who runs house shows at Swag House (@swaghouse_shows) and they seem to be really organized widdit and are throwing all sorts of shows n stuff maybe DM them too!

Idk many more spots other than that cause it’s like UNCG kids throwing most of the shows probably and I would feel like 1,0000,000,,00,00,0,000000 years old/ very creepy tryna connect with those folks

OMGGG also did anyone record the Wednesday cover set??? Send it to me biytch!!

beginning guitar

Q: hi karly! your music has been a big inspiration for me wanting to learn guitar. i bought a squier strat a year ago but really never found myself consistently playing. what advice do you have for a newer player? i feel like musicians were just born knowing how to play but the truth is everyone had to start somewhere. how did you learn and what are some tips or guidance you would give to someone new with the experience you have now?

thanks for taking time to answer! excited for new music when it comes :)

A: girrrllllll I still barely know how to play

My advice is watch youtube videos of other people who’s playing you like and try to copy em!

For writing songs: just fuck around with your fingers in different places on the neck until you hear something that sounds like the feeling you’re trying to get across (plus knowing a few basic chords help, you can learn those from the charts on ultimate guitar)

Also try writing in open tunings and just cover all the strings to make chords if you want a realllly basic structure to try your hand at writing.

lessons are always available too if you have the means but I’ve never actually had one myself, I don’t do super well in that kinda learning environment.

idk if this is good advice but its what I got!

What would I do if I wasn't playing music?

Hey Karly!

I just want to say that I love your music and I feel like you have revived my love of all things DIY.

I wanted to ask what you think you'd be doing if you weren't a full time musician/artist. Perhaps you'd still be doing these things in tandum but just wondering if there is any other career path that ever interested you?

Also, we have a lot of the same taste in video games lol. If you haven't played "Gone Home" yet I highly recommend. Sort of like Edith Finch but shorter and a little spookier.

A:

whooooa tbh it stressed me out so much to think of a world where I’m not doing music full time!!!!!

Luckily I put all of my eggs in that basket and made it my only option. It’s hard to think of a world where I didn’t make it my biggest and only goal.

If I wasn’t playing music full time I’d probably wanna do something that would give me a lot time outside of work to work on music lol. I think I would probably try to be my sister’s secretary (shes a doctor of acupuncture)

Maybe I’d try to run a DIY venue??? Or something else that’s involved in contributing to the local music community. I think DIY spaces are still one of the coolest parts of the music “machine” rn, kinda the only spots that consistently uphold values/integrity (not all, but many!).

There’s a really neat space in Greensboro where I live called Etc. that does shows and community events and social justice organizing and shit… I would probably wanna be contributing to something like that if I wasn’t doing what I’m doin rn.

hmmmm I’d probably also be doing sewing stuff a lot too if I wasn’t touring like I do but tbh the fashion world is a deeply intimidating place to me so I’m glad that’s not my main industry rn.

I have played Gone Home also <3 I love it, but def pales in comparison to Edith Finch imo

viddy game recs

Q:

Hiiiiii,

Hope your spring is going good. U mentioned liking indie games and I was wondering what some of ur favs are/reccs. I got an old DS on eBay and I've been putting stickers on it and I think everyone needs one tbh.

A:

yooooo!! I got some recs in my "faves of all time" tab on my site!

tryna think of other shit i like that’s not on there.... i haven’t had a on of time to play games recently :( Most recently I played and really enjoyed “Detention” by RedCandleGames!

theres this youtuber I watch that makes increddddible recommends like once a month. Usually all indie games too!

Life is Strange

Q: I see you have the first Life Is Strange game listed as a fave, it was a big one for me too! Have you played any of the other games in the Life Is Strange series? Or that new one by the original studio "Lost Records: Bloom & Rage"? Any thoughts on any of them? Wednesday rules!

A: Ommgggggg I have such a love for that game. The way those characters dress and talk and act is SOOOO reminiscent of how I was at that age it’s freaky. It’s crazy that they wrote characters that age so fucking accurately. It’s like cringy in the same way that “8th Grade” movie is…. almost too real.

I played the prequel too but I don’t really remember it! I think I liked it tho!

I didn’t play the ones with the different main characters cause the reviews I read were mixed and I didn’t wanna sully the relationship I have with the original games.

I know they just did another part to the LIS story with the original characters right? I still need to play that.

I haven’t heard of the other one you mentioned! I’ll check it out!

(update, it was already on my play list I just haven’t gotten it yet…. but now I am more motivated. Maybe sometime next month I can try it out!)

God

Q: Hi Karly! I'm a huge fan of your music. your storytelling is engaging and beautiful, and it seems like you have a deep awareness of and appreciation for your surroundings (maybe even or especially when the surroundings are rough). I know you've talked about religion and god in your songs ("daughter of god," etc.), and you've mentioned on this webspace that you are jewish. I grew up catholic and am now 27 and have been going through what I've been calling my god-curious phase, though mostly I know it's probably not a phase and will be a forever state of being. you've mentioned Flannery O'Connor on here too, and she's someone I've been revisiting because she was outspoken about believing in god and reading religious existentialists.

i'm wondering, are you god-curious? and if so, have you always been or are you newly so?

I really appreciate you as a writer and artist, thanks for being here <3 and for writing this blog!!!

A: okay first off, incredible question! I love the concept of god-curious.

I don’t think I’ve ever been god-curious truly… it was just never really brought up as a thing to actually believe in when I was growing up. It more just floated around as this amorphous character that showed up in the stories of Judaism. We never discussed God in my house or during holidays… or maybe if we did I was just zoned out.

I think it’s really fascinating to think about what the idea of God motivates people to do though, and I think that’s why it ends up being discussed in so many Wednesday songs. I think people that have a strong belief in God can genuinely be pointed in such a beautiful direction, and have very beautiful intentions. I am jealous of those people and their calm, and their ability to trust something so fully sometimes.

Although I don’t have an explicit commitment to Jewish/Christian/whatever God, I do have a HUGE capacity for belief. There is a place in my heart really desperate for an explanation for the pain and sadnesses of the world. I think my belief the idea of “Fate” has really taken up that space for me instead of a religious entity. Fate in turn has shown up in a bunch of songs as well. It’s a much unsteadier ground to stand on compared to organized religion though… and doesn’t provide the community aspect obviously.

I think some people fill that space with astrology or idk… other philosophies? There are so many options for that now. I think whatever gives ya comfort and makes you strive to be a better person is cool.

Hope you find what you’re looking for!

Nun

Q: yooo loved the live performance of I got heaven. if you were a catholic nun what would be your nun name (sister Joan, sister Francis Mary etc)?

A: For those who’re unaware, I recently sang back up on this Mannequin Pussy performance in a nun’s habit

girl, aren’t you just supposed to use your last name? So I’d be like Sister Hartzman…. ? That’s sounding veryyyyy Jewish, I think they’d probably kick me outta there.
If I could pick anything I’d probably be Sister Princess Alexandria the Third

Tattoos vs Mom and Dad

Q: This is a very teen magazine question but I'm really struggling with my parents about my decision to get tattoos. Right now I have around 9 but they're all relatively small and on my ankles. A lot of them are from my later teen years, when my parents and I were fighting a lot. I think they associate my having them with teen rebellion, but I don't think they understand that it's something I intend to keep doing-- I relate a lot to what you said about how they help with disassociation, they also help me feel agency when I want to self-harm.

I'm planning on getting ferns tattooed on my shoulder caps/a little bit on my collarbone within the next two years-ish (saving money/finding artist etc.), but I know my parents would be really disappointed in me. My dad would probably get over it as long as they were covered, but my mom might not be able to look me in the eyes for a while. She's so offended by the idea that she won't even hear me out about it.

I know there's no perfect solution but I was wondering if you had any stories about this kind of thing, and maybe just navigating life as someone with a lot of tattoos?

Thanks for any advice, hope you're doing well <3

A: Okay, imma give you my most honest advice, please take it with a grain of salt since I don’t know your parents and how they’d react.

At the end of the day it’s YOUR body and as an adult you’re allowed to do anything you want with it. That’s the most important thing.

Your parents not wanting you to get tattoos is an act of love for them even though it might not feel that way. They probably just want the best for you and they might be under the impression that tattoos will prevent you from getting a certain job etc etc. You’re their baby, and at the end of the day it is their job to love you unconditionally…. so in my experience if you get tattoos they’ll get over it eventually. I think there is something to say especially for how it helps you and your relationship to your body as you describe above, if they can’t empathize with that in the long run… i’m not sure.

My parents were pretty chill about the tattoo thing and now have some themselves. My grandparents on the other hand are VERY Jewish and were very very very mad about the tattoos cause you technically cant be buried in a Jewish cemetery if you’re tatted. There is also a direct emotional tie with Jews and tattoos because of the Holocaust. They fucking brought it up every time I saw them for YEARS and it was kind of upsetting. BUT even they got over it eventually and they got used to seeing them.

I will say if you still live with them maybe hold up on getting anything really huge, just to save yourself the inescapable hassle. Once you support yourself it’s a little easier to advocate on your own behalf and your decisions.

Also I personally advocate for not getting anything high commitment (large or highly visible) until you’re like at least 20…. my oldest tattoos are my least favorite. I still like having them but I would do a few differently now for sure.

I hope this was helpful! Please don’t show your parents this if you decide to get a big tattoo and sue me or something. I don’t know how that works.

NC music Venues

Q: In the past couple of years, I learned how many cool venues there are in North Carolina, Like the Cats cradle, Orange Peel etc and I wondered if you had a favorite one to go to as a fan?

(Also It feels so cool as a North Carolinian to see how proud y''all are of the state)

A:

I looooove Cat’s Cradle in Chapel Hill I have a lot of fond mems there. Will always probably be my fave non-DIY venue (other than the Mothlight in Asheville, RIP) to see shows cause I saw a lot of life changing shit there in highschool. Pinhook and Motorco in Durham rock as well. Static Age in Asheville rocks. Kings in Raleigh rox. Orange Peel in Asheville fucking SUCKS to go to as an audience member sometimes, their security is way too fucking serious. I’ve had some incredibly negative experiences there….. Would be awesome if they fixed that. I’ve seen a lot of good shows there too tho. It’s kinda one of the only spaces it makes sense for us to play in AVL atm tho…

My favorite shows to go to though will forever be house shows and DIY venues. There’s energy at those that are incomparable to any “real” venue. There’s a DIY space in Greensboro now called “etc.” and they are fucking awesome. That kinda shit is what makes good NC music possible. Def find out what those spaces are near u and go to some random shows even if you don’t know the bands playing.

Vintage/Food/Shopping etc Recs for Japan

Q:

Hey Karly!! I’m going to Japan mid may and have been trying to think of places to go for shopping, thrifting, bars, food, figurines, tchotchkes, etc. and was wondering if you have any recs for places that are a must see I will be spending about a week in Tokyo and then a few days in Kyoto!

A:

Boy do I got a list!!!!!

https://maps.app.goo.gl/MAThPn8LGBJapte89

this is for the whole world but theres stuff in japan too

my faves of all time shops there are:

Nubian, Pin Nap, Funktique, GR8, Pat Market, Now2, The Four Eyed, Closet Child (the shinjuku location), Hitochigai and DC Bank. I suggest going to Koenji or Shimokitazawa neighborhoods for thrifting/shopping over Harajuku

Here’s food:

https://maps.app.goo.gl/SvD8ZUYS5E93X5nm9

Literally though there is amazing food EVERYWHERE

I suggest BOOKOFF or flea markets (The Oi raceway flea happens every week I believe) for tchotchkes, I actually feel kinda weird buying too much new shit in Japan that vein cause there is sooooo much around already, I try my best to thrift it. The lil coin machines will have fun stuff like that too though.

For bars def walk through Golden Gai for the experience but my fave bar in Tokyo Bar 45 or Beat Cafe. Any listening bars will rock your world. Galaxie 500 is an awesome one in Kyoto.

structurin' time

Q: Hey karly,

Wanted 2 start off and say that the way you live n rock is an inspo to me (from ur website to ur art to ur knack for decor) makes me want to lifemaxx. That being said, i do a lot of different stuff like you (guitar, sewing, reading/writing and drawing mainly) but it's really hard to find the time to do all of that especially now that I work full time :( When i play guitar i think about my sewing projects, when i draw i think about the book im reading, la di da the list goes on. I find it hard to stay present in my hobbies and a lot of stuff remains unfinished. How do u go about splitting up your time and interests and staying present in one interest long enough to make something that you're proud of or feel like its accurately expressing yourself? Thanx :) <3

A: Okay, well to be honest I’ve never had a commitment like full time job other than school. When I did work outside of music I only worked part-time in retail or food service. So it’s a little hard for me to relate to ur specific experience!! But I’ll try my best to answer your question regardless.

With writing I used to structure that time very regimented…. no matter what, at some point in the day I sit and dedicate how ever long to writing 20 lines of potential lyrics. Sometimes it doesn’t create anything good enough to use in the song but what matters is you worked that muscle for the day.

The rest of my shit i just do when I feel the call. I sew when I wanna zone out and listen to music or watch TV while I do it. It’s my “multitasking” thing that helps me feel like I’m still being productive even when I wanna veg out. It’s nice to have at least one hobby that you can do to get in a flow state without having to think about it. Knitting or sewing accomplishes this real easy. Drawing or something might work for you too. Coding or adding to my website has accomplished this as well for me recently!

But yeah, basically since I have free time any time i’m not on tour now I wake up and if I feel like writing, I write, if I feel like sewing I sew etc. I can tell pretty immediately what I wanna do based on the weather. Extreme cold, hot or rainy I’m more inclined to stay inside and work on visual art or mess around on guitar. I like to write outside on nice days, or go out to write. And if you’re in the mood for none of those things, it’s good to be around friends or go on a walk or read. As little time as I can spend vegging out without any sort of supplementary thing I usually avoid. It’s gotten 17 bajillion times easier since getting off socials. But I know not everyone can really do that.

Now how to do this with a full time job…? No idea sry. I wish I had better advice for that.

As far as your problem with being unable to devote your attention to one thing at a time, I think thats not always a bad thing. Transitioning between one thing and another when you feel like it is something you’re allowed to do! It always helps to not be so hard on yourself, or not going in already comparing your work to other peoples work. Maybe pick one thing rn to really dedicate yourself to a little bit everyday, the thing you most want finished pieces for, and try to do that everyday. Then do the others when you try to work on that thing but needed a break.

Hope this is helpful!

cookout order

NC born and raised, whats your cookout order Karly?

it’s crazy but… just a side of pups!!

They’re my fave, I don’t usually see the point in ordering much else.

southern gurlz

Q: Hi Karly, I love how your lyrics depict the southern grotesque - how did you come to accept letting your southern roots and own grotesqueness bleed into your work (especially growing up in the alternative scene)? Or was it always a non issue?
P.s. I work at a used record/bookstore in the middle of nowhere in Texas & I play records while people shop - I played Rat Saw God whenever it first came out on vinyl, and 4 people complained and walked out during Bull believer… it was awesome
Thanks for making music for weird southern girls like me <3 take care

A: I always kinda embraced my southern-ness, ever since I went to summer camp with kids from all over the US and realized how much I identified proudly with the other kids who were from near where I was from.

The more I travel away from the south the more I appreciate it and miss it when I leave.

Also much of my favorite (and the best imo) music and books are written by Southern ppl: Harry Crews, Flannery O’Connor, Drive-By Truckers, Vic Chesnutt, OutKast… of course many country singers and song writers.

I have always found the south easy to love in spite of its many many flaws. It has so much character and the landscape is so deeply inspiring to me, always has been.

down 4 photos?

Q: I don’t even know if you remember this but I met you in a Target the day after Christmas in 2023 and I so regret not asking for a photo BUT it makes me want to ask, how do you feel about autographs/photos/etc.? I never want to make anyone feel uncomfy or awkward by taking photos, especially when they’re not on celeb level, because I think photos can send a message of “oh I have to show people this famous person I met”

A: I usually don’t mind photos! I’ll tell people straight up if I’m not up for it, because like anyone sometimes I’m not in the ideal headspace for that sorta thing. Or if I’m with my family or something I might say no, just to like be there with them 100% and respect their privacy etc etc.

Ya’ll’re in general cool ass people and it is awesome to meet and talk with you 99% of the time. I’ll let ya know if that changes but for now I’m down for pix if ya see me out n about.

tour rider

Heyo, I’ve gone down a rabbit hole recently reading about bands’ tour riders. I gotta know what’s on the Wednesday rider. Anything fun? Hope you’re doing well <3

It’s funny because we loved to talk about what we would put on our rider before we were given one but when it came the day to actually make one we went with pretty straightforward/boring shit

For those who don’t know: a rider is a list of items (food/alcohol/necessities) you give to the venue to have for you when you arrive there.

Our rider on our last run was something like:

-a few Larabars

-Casamigos or some other type of Tequila (only if were in the Americas usually cause tequila in Europe is not very good in our experience), and a bottle of wine (Xandy requests a local natural wine and sometimes we get something extremely delicious if the venue people are into natural wines and know what to get)

-a pint of blueberries

-peanut m&ms or a bar of dark chocolate

-a box of mixed greens (we each just shove a few handfuls in our mouths if we get a chance because usually we don’t get enough greens during the day)

I think that’s pretty much it…. sometimes we get oranges and they sometimes provide chips and salsa or something like that. Nothing that interesting. Xandy and I have both worked at music venues so we don’t want to over complicate it for the people that work there etc etc

croc guitar

Who built yon amazing (black croc tears?) guitar? I’m building a JM now, and color me inspired. NO sloppy copies, I’m doing my own thing…still I’m channeling you. So far, I’ve got a mascis rosewood neck, a decoboom pickguard, and a set of strings…Sa’weet y’all.
All I need is a body.
When in Raleigh (and err’where lately), I’m bumpin’ Wednesday. Please come back to HOPSCOTCH?!?! If so, I’ll hook or crook from CT to get down.

Yoooo, I picked up the guitar from Heyday Music in Asheville when I still worked there. It is a Italia Modulo! Here’s one I found for sale on Reverb… I think mine was about half the price of this one tho so maybe look around ffor a better price.

How 2 Rock

hello! I'm in a band but none of us really know what we're doing (not in a "no one ever knows what theyre doing!" kind of way but in the way that we all simply need lessons) - was wondering if you had any insight into how you write songs? Like do you come up with lyrics first and then try and work them into a melody or vice versa? i feel like im just not skilled enough to be able to write good songs - like how do you envision all the different instruments coming together? you're so talented and any insight welcome and thank you!

This is a HUUUUGE question, that idk if I can answer satisfyingly

I write a little bit about my process for lyrics here

As far as the instrumentals, getting a crew of people with good chemistry was inherent to how we actually formed the final versions of song. Everyone knew what our common influences were so they drew from those and their own tastes to write their parts. , I just come to practice with lyrics and my own guitar part. Experimentation is crucial though, so just trust each other, think of the emotion you want to capture with the music, and keep messing around until you mistakenly or on purpose find what your looking for.

It won’t happen immediately. It takes a loooot of work and you gotta really love expressing yourself with music to feel any sort of satisfaction from it. If it’s not fun or at the very least therapeutic I don’t see the point. Ask yourself what your motivation is for making music, and figure out what you want to say.

Dont go in thinking of the final product. Come with a loose idea and be open to it morphing and changing on it’s way to becoming the final version of the song.

Maybe listen to other artists that are self taught, self recorded, and accessible to your experience with your instrument to gain the confidence to believe you can do it too. I found this in Riot Grrl music when I was first starting out but you could also research the bedroom pop girlies, Guided By Voices, Daniel Johnston people in that vein. Incredibly important music from people that weren’t formally trained but that desperately had something to say. I could think of a bigger list of artists that make you think “I can do this too!” or if people want to suggest music in the comments below feel free.

Just listen to a bunch of shit that makes you excited to make your own shit! And write a bunch of bad songs until you inevitably write a good one

Hope this helps

Thrifting

hi karly! i was wondering if you do any thrifting at goodwill? if so, and with all your expertise, do you have a ranking of goodwills in the greensboro area?

urgghhhh I hate Goodwill kinda…. their prices have gotten so insane. I do go there once in a while though cause there’s a lot fewer charity shops in Greensboro compared to Asheville. If I do go I usually hit the one on Market and then go to Reconsidered Goods. I grew up going to the one on Elm street ! That’s further from me now tho.

I like Freedom House Thrift pretty good…. but they are heavily Christian music playing in there. Who knows where that moneys goin… I should probably look into that.

I like the place across from Red Collection off of Battleground too but I forget what it’s called.